‘Equal to’ – Spiritual Living with Colleen-JoyThe wisdom teaching that helped me speak on stages, face conflict and build an abundant business
Whenever I’ve faced tough things – mountain-high decisions, hurtful relationships, painful consequences, speaking on stages around the world, health problems and the fear of “What if…” – Wisdom helped me with this teaching.
This single, simple insight helped me claim peace-filled power and the courage to get unstuck.
Here is the teaching.
Wisdom: You are not ‘minus’. You are not ‘plus’. You are ‘equal to’
How many times does our ego and body’s survival response have us posture as ‘minus’ (hiding, minimising, avoiding) or ‘plus’ (exaggerating, trying too hard, controlling)?
What if neither of these is true?
When I notice I feel ‘minus’ – less than a challenge, inferior to another person, stuck in doubt or fear – I take a few minutes to face and get ‘equal to’ the imagined worst thing I’m afraid of. My fear of loss or failure, clinging to something or someone, my hoping to be seen as clever, good, or kind. This stops me from overcompensating by swinging into ‘plus’ – trying too hard, exaggerating or feeling superior.
This has helped me speak on stages, turn nightmares into new realities of abundance, set boundaries in relationships, heal from loss and face the daily challenges of being human.
It’s my wish for you to find the peaceful power of being ‘equal to’.
Here are four applications of the ‘Equal To Wisdom’.
‘Equal to’ judgement
Back in my late 20s, I was mid-speech to a small group of about 70, teaching intuition skills. A short, grey-haired man sitting in the back row, his cheeks flushed red, interrupted me mid-sentence and shouted, “Nonsense!”
Now that he had our attention, he continued, “This intuition thing is rubbish.”
It felt like a gut punch. I wanted to attack, to defend my point of view. Who does he think he is? How rude.
All eyes were on me.
If I let my first instinctive response take charge, I would position as ‘plus’, trying to make him feel as small and ‘minus’ as he’d made me feel.
But I knew another way. I felt deeper inside myself for wisdom, setting an intention to be ‘equal to’ this man and this moment. This created a new choice.
‘Equal to’, I thought to myself. This can feel like bowing, accepting, understanding and owning.
I invited myself to be ‘equal to’ his point of view, ‘equal to’ his interruption and ‘equal to’ his fiery personality. It’s more like the fulcrum of a pendulum that is stable – its ‘equal to’ both extremes.
‘Equal to’, I repeated until I could feel the contraction in my gut, heart and mind release. With more openness, a different way of responding arose.
I smiled (a real smile) and said, “Well, you know, for the price of popcorn and a movie, if you want to think of this talk as cheap bad entertainment, you’re welcome.”
He looked puzzled for a moment but then also smiled. “Touché,” he replied. And I simply continued my talk.
Ironically, he became a regular student and we had a lovely connection for a couple of years.
Being criticised comes with the job of being a mentor and coach, so I’ve used this wisdom often.
‘Plus’ and ‘minus’ are two sides of the same coin. They are both survival instincts expressed through ego. They’re not wrong or right, but they create more of the same. When someone positions as ‘plus’ to intimidate you, you may feel like you only have two choices – to act small and ‘minus’ or to attack back as ‘plus’.
If someone positions as ‘minus’ you might join them or feel sorry for them as you position in a ‘plus’ – which is different to empathy.
‘Equal to,’ like the fulcrum of the pendulum, is the state of compassionate detachment. It is giving cleanly without needing anything in return and receiving gifts gratefully without guilt. I believe it also gives others the opportunity to leave their ‘plus-minus’ state, where we can meet on the ‘equal to’ bridge of understanding. And even if the other remains ‘plus’ or ‘minus,’ you are free of the entanglement.
What would it give you to be free of the positive and negative judgments of others?
‘Equal to’ “What if!” –
Our minds hold us to ransom with imagined outcomes.
When we get truly ‘equal to’ the best and worst imagined outcomes, we take back our peaceful power and claim what I call the ‘untouchable self’ – the true self.
“Colleen, what do you suggest I do?” my student asked, panic in her voice. “I’m facing a custody hearing this Friday. I’m terrified of losing custody of my children, but my ex-husband has money and influence. I can’t sleep. I don’t know what to do.”
I explained my ‘Equal To Outcomes’ process:
First, visualise the worst-case scenario your mind is imagining. Picture yourself in a scene where the worst is happening – not to traumatise yourself, but simply to face what your imagination is already holding over you. Picture the conversations you need to have, face the loss and witness the events.
Then, imagine that the worst is over – that it’s in the past. Place yourself in a safe, tranquil scene of your choosing, whether a peaceful spot in nature or a comfortable room. Breathe, let go and tell yourself that the worst has passed.
Now, search for what I call the ‘untouchable self’ by asking: “Even though the worst has happened, what is still true that life cannot take from me?” Contemplate this and claim one or more untouchable truths.
Over the years, I’ve heard responses like: My ability to experience love, beauty, peace and joy. Others have said: I still have my creativity, humour, talents and purpose.
Breathe in these truths, allowing your heart, mind and body to absorb them. Show yourself that even if the worst happens, these untouchable truths remain. This is how we take back our peaceful power.
Finally, notice how your feelings about the imagined worst scenario have shifted. With the untouchable truths to strengthen you, face the worst and feel the words, “I am ‘equal to’ this.”
Once we’ve completed facing the worst-case scenario and claiming the untouchable truths, it helps to also face the best-case scenario, where hidden fears and resistance sometimes hide.
So, we repeat the same process, but this time facing the best outcome.
I offered this process to my student as a way of preparing for her custody battle. A week later, at her next class, she told me what had happened.
“Col, I did what you said, even though I was worried that by imagining the worst, I would be attracting it. When I faced the worst-case scenario, I cried a lot, but the truth I found was that my children would always be my children, even if I lost legal custody. This did bring me peace. What surprised me was that when I faced the best, I realised my ex-husband would also always be their father. This was also my untouchable truth.
“When I went to the custody hearing, I was not as afraid and I was much more present. I was less triggered by my ex and more open to giving him a place. Amazingly, we agreed to shared custody, which I never thought was possible.”
How would it feel for you to feel ‘equal to’ your mind’s ‘what if worst and best future outcomes’?
‘Equal to’ failure and success
In the early years of building my business, overwhelmed by decision-making fatigue and cash flow nightmares, I would regularly use my own ‘equal to’ process to imagine the collapse of my business.
I would face needing to disappoint many people, handle the complexity of financial debt and accept the loss of my dream. Then I would claim my untouchable truths – that wisdom, intuition, and my apple tree purpose would still be true even if my business failed.
In this space of clear seeing, I would sometimes ask myself, “If it all collapsed, what would I do next?”
And each time, I knew – I would build it again. Then I’d face the best-case scenarios, getting ‘equal to’ new levels of complexity, responsibility and abundance.
I’ll tell you, each time I got ‘equal to’ a new level of monthly income in this way – by feeling the reality of the bigger numbers – without fail, my business would earn those new, bigger numbers within a few months.
By learning to be ‘equal to’ both the failure and success of every project, from sending emails to my database to pitching for life-changing multimillion deals, I’ve stayed in the flow.
Because, as wisdom has taught me, when we are not ‘equal to’ our imagined futures, we hold back our life river – then wonder why even the smallest rock blocks us. When we are ‘equal to’, we open the full power of our river of life, ‘equal to’ the rocks and waterfalls ahead of us and so we flow around and over them with grace and courage.
‘Equal to’ human and divine
I’ll leave you with a fable that an Indian friend, who used to be a monk, once shared with me.
“The big bird represents our expanded, higher consciousness. The small bird represents our human, limited consciousness. By trying to be the big bird, we keep ourselves as the small bird. Only by accepting our small bird does the big bird automatically arise.”
Being ‘equal to’ being human – the best and the worst of it – is how we discover the true self.
My final message to you.
May you be ‘equal to’ the valleys and summits of life. Know yourself as ‘equal to’ pain and pleasure, gain and loss. This is the true self.
After recovering from a home invasion armed robbery years ago, I asked wisdom if I had attracted this traumatic event into my life. This is what wisdom showed me:
“Winter is not your fault. Do you have any idea the courage of your soul to be born, to bleed and to die? You are that which is ‘equal to’ life. You are that sovereign being.”
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Part One by Megan de Beyer Conscious Parenting Indaba Speaker
‘Human society prospers best when it functions according to the principles that operate in the natural world.’
I’m curious; ‘How can we parent, keeping the earth in mind?’ ‘What does nature and the earth teach us about how to parent?’
After nearly 30 years as a psychologist, I completed another master’s in 2012, in holistic ecology, a subject that examined complex adaptive systems and our place in the greater ecology. It awakened in me not only a deeper knowledge of our planet, my home, and being within the web of life, but also my awe of and gratitude for all that is of nature. I discovered that wisdom means listening within, to a more refined or higher consciousness. From an inner stillness, I listen closely to an evolutionary impulse that flows easily through the natural world. There is an intelligence and a guidance when we engage with nature’s rhythms and cycles. In all the times I was counselling people indoors and running workshops for thousands of parents in cold classrooms, I was actively seeking personal time in nature to resource myself. For me the wild is not about danger, it is rather about feeling a part of the life that formed from almost 2.4 billion years of adaptation and growth. Nature is our teacher and our ally and we need to listen to the lessons we are being taught. Living systems can give us the key to how to parent – illuminating ways for us to do so that are meaningful and valid, no matter what age, gender, background, interests, capabilities or temperament of the children we parent.
I believe that bringing nature closer into our homes is pretty straightforward, if one follows these three ways:
1. Running sustainable or ‘green’ homes, engaging our children in simple practices that uphold ecological value – recycling, composting, using bio-friendly cleaning products, planting pots or our garden with healthy vegetables and herbs and so on.
2. Finding a local environmental cause that’s easy for teenagers to engage in, like picking up plastic from oceans, cleaning up trails, clearing aliens, planting gardens that attract birds and bees or supporting animal projects.
3. Spending more time outdoors, hiking or camping or generally encouraging our teens in sports that take them onto the earth, into the sea or up mountains.
For me there is a fourth route, which could have the biggest impact and alter the way future generations live. It points to raising our consciousness and widening our perspective. I think it can help inform parents today and lessen their anxieties.
How do we parent as a living system? How do we learn to parent from nature’s principles? And mostly, can we let the rhythms of nature inform us about what our children’s lives need?
4. This fourth way changes how we think about our place in the world, enabling us to develop values and beliefs that are in synch with or come from nature’s wisdoms. We have sculpted a transactional world that ignorantly exploits nature’s resources and objectifies the wilderness as a utility. It’s always about what we can ‘get’ or how we benefit. Yet, how to follow nature’s lead? The simplistic answer is to examine how animals’ parent. There are many clear examples of tough love and strict rules in the wild – lionesses who train their cubs using growls, tail flicks and hard wallops and bites. We would use the word instinctual or fierce survival-parenting here. There are genetically inbred cues that all mammals obey. Generally, though, parents in the wilds appear to use a ‘top-down approach’ and this was not the practical example that I was searching for.
As parents we want the ‘good life’ for them – but what is this? Image, status, fabulous holiday destinations… often seem a priority. Yet, stress, anxiety and poor mental health are showing up in buckets! Maybe we need what matters the most. The basics: The happiness in our homes.
I believe that, by improving a family’s connection and commitment to nature, all the necessary bio-psycho-social aspects can be addressed at the same time. By this I mean physical health, mental wellness, empathy and pro-social behaviours – all proven to improve with increased immersion in nature. There is an urgent need for parents to help children and teens reconnect to nature as a way of healing, of reconnecting to the values that will help our planet recover from its endangered position. As parents we need an ‘ecosophy’ that promotes a way of being in the world that minimises harm to nature while enhancing feelings of awe, wonder and belonging and, in so doing, to align homes with the mother of all homes, Gaia. In his book Nature Principle, Richard Louv says it is necessary for every aspect of being human – from our senses, intellect, bodies, emotional, mental and spiritual development – as well as for strengthening our bonds to others and all living creatures. There is a growing awareness that a child’s or teen’s access to nature is not a luxury but a necessity for health and mental wellbeing. Numerous psychological studies have confirmed that ‘indoor childhoods’ are causing psychological and health problems. In his book, Beyond Ecophobia, David Sobel suggests that children today associate nature with danger and apocalypse. We no longer let our young teens explore, we demand no mess and we emphasise the dangers of spiders and snakes, of falling out of trees, or of getting lost.
Living systems
An ecosystem is an example of a living system. It is always in dynamic relationship with all its parts. Biology tells us that ecosystems have a reciprocal and an adaptive relationship with their niche.. Your teenager’s niche may be school and home and it constantly influences him. He may be influenced by a relationship with a sibling and by the values of the school he attends and both may impact on his character and behaviour. He, in turn, adapts to his niche but he also influences it. As parents we like to look for blame or the cause of a problem yet, with this view, there is no real cause but rather a series of interactions that have no real beginning or end. This view asks us to listen more, understand more and have a much wider view. We did not create our children; it happened naturally in line with the principles of evolution.
Let’s look at ways to apply these unifying principles to what shows up in our homes and families. Everything in relationship. Nature, the largest living system, is all about co-operating and networking in constant reciprocity. There are no strict separations – there may be boundaries, like the bark on a trunk of a tree, but most are permeable. It is very difficult to find one thing in nature that actually operates completely separately. The smallest flower relies on the system in which it is nested. There is a constant interconnection, communication and resource-sharing on so many levels. For instance, the forest canopy with its birds; the mid-level of a forest with its bugs; the soil with scurrying life and microscopic life – and all of it is combined with every element – air, water, earth and fire – in a non-wasteful system where every leaf or piece of bark is reused for the benefit of all. The forest is a beautiful system of co-operation with its own communication system, ensuring that it is abundant, giving and non-wasteful.
The more families I observe, the more I realise that we need a philosophy about parenting that upholds the need to synchronise our approach, like an ecosystem. From this ecosophy parents create a foundation within which a technique or a rule can be tried out. This means a boundary is not just imposed on a teen in a top-down way. It means there are networks and relationships that he already trusts, that offer him a safe holding space, before there is disciplining or individual-skill building. If we have a conscious and responsive approach to parenting, boundaries can more easily be negotiated and applied when needed. We can pick them up and let them go again. The teen’s voice or reaction could also form an important part of the feedback loop. If we could trust that there is a deeper wisdom available to guide us, we could be less fearful and allow a more fluid movement, for instance, between the values and ethics of your family and another family – between schools and different communities and between different ethnic groups. It is the fear of the unknown that drives us towards needing control through rigid and strict rules and prejudice. Families can acknowledge that interdependence and interconnectedness are healthy (including teens’ social networks) and open to it more.
New generations have fresh eyes for the world and parents can make room to discover things through teen eyes. Many homes operate according to a submission/dominance pattern. Children must be trained to obey the adults. Yet few relationships in nature are completely hierarchical or competitive, even though we like to believe in the outdated idea of ‘survival of the fittest’. The reward/punishment system or the submission/dominance style could be replaced by a growth mentality and be more relationship-focused, looking for interconnections. In this way disruptions become processes of growth and learning, fostering the most productive or the best bonding times. In this way we develop strength of character. Parents can aim to provide a reservoir of wisdom, where children are given more leeway to experiment within certain ethical and moral boundaries. It’s the classic ‘firm yet fair’ approach – yet it’s not hierarchical in the sense that only parents have all the answers. It is not about letting go of all boundaries but instead inviting a social field of trust and growth as a priority; followed by embracing development and dynamic change as normal; as opposed to everything being top-down, isolated, separate and disconnected.
If you look around you in a forest, for example, you will see plants, algae, animals, fungi, the undergrowth, soil, leaves – all forming different types of relationships with one another. And what we discover in living systems is that the more participants, the more relationships and the more resilient that ecosystem becomes.
Natural systems are resilient. Resilience is the ability to ‘bounce back’, the ability to adapt, the ability to continue to grow and develop even in complex circumstances. Nature uses ‘diversity, redundancy, decentralisation and self-renewal and self-repair to foster resiliency’, according to biomimicry. This resilience of nature depends hugely on diversity in each system, so that, during a disturbance, only some loss occurs but at the same time there is self-repair. In our own families we can welcome the diversities and the numerous relationship types that occur in a school or a community and learn from them, as opposed to shutting them out because they are unfamiliar. The more difference there is, the more growth and vibrancy there is. Life is vibrant, dynamic and full of difference and therefore resilient. Following the lead of nature, we become more open to different events, friends and activities. Adopting the view that ‘this too will pass’ or ‘everything in its own time’ allows our teens to befriend different cultures or religions; we as parents can also be less judgmental and open to exploration. The questions then become: ‘What are we learning from these relationships? What do you enjoy and celebrate here? Do you find this relationship uplifting?’ This is very different to saying: ‘I don’t trust that friend of yours. I don’t want her in our house!’ Asking questions born of curiosity and interest as opposed to shutting down or out does not mean you need to change your own values or boundaries. There is still room for: ‘We have Sunday lunches together, even if your friend doesn’t.’
We are not separate.
We’d do well to remind ourselves of how much we simply receive from being alive. For all the elements of air, water, earth and fire in so many forms, be grateful, soften and let go of holding on out of fear of lack. We often fear that there is only so much energy or achievement to go around and it can be depleted or someone can take it away; yet this is not in line with nature and, therefore, from this viewpoint is not true. It is our belief system that has created this fear of scarcity and we instil this fear in our children. As parents we can teach our teens ways to resource themselves. If they tend to be hyperactive and fixated in one direction and expend all their energy at once, we can teach them about inner resourcing or self-soothing, like spending a little time alone, walking out in nature, lying in the sun for a while just to regenerate the system. We can help teens to understand that their mind, emotions and body all are created as one entity; how we treat the one will affect the other.
Conscious Parenting Indaba 15.07.2025 Difficult Teens? Perfect! Megan de Beyer – 17:00 to 18:00 Book your Ticket
About Megan: Megan de Beyer, MA (Psychology), MSc (Holistic Ecology) is an international Psychologist and group facilitator. She has facilitated many successful and well-subscribed Mothers and Sons courses at most Independent boys’ school in South Africa. She has been invited to run parent courses in California, Australia and UK on numerous occasions; as well as presenting at conferences on parenting. She is the author of “How to Raise a Man – a modern mother’s guide to parenting her teenage son” published by Penguin. An eBook is available.
See her advice on The Village Facebook group where she is the co-founder. She is a mother of 2 young adults, runs wellness & mindfulness retreats in Cape Town, and presently works throughout Africa in mental health for the Singita Safari Company. Overall, Megan’s conscious living philosophy is the foundation of her healing work. She exemplifies three fundamental pillars of healing – radical tenderness, passionate kindness, and extreme peace.
Beloved ones, as your friend I conduct my energy through this being to be able to share with you in words that which your Higher Self communicates to you in frequency.
Known or unbeknown, a new doorway awaits, beyond which an enhanced frequency (timeline) greets you. This doorway of your (sacred) heart allows entry into your divine essence. This leads to planes beyond your personal Golden Pyramid. This higher heart-mind frequency is overseen by your Over Soul / Higher Self.
A new frequency brings new energy
This is the promise of the ‘new’ codes of enlightenment bestowed upon you. You experienced this recently first hand, your authentic exciting Angel Warrior Codes. It’s an amalgamation of previous codes. It is light, liquid and alchemical! The current energy finally flings the doorway to the Aquarian Age wide open and we are here with you!
The planet blesses you with its eternal elemental codes. Unlike Lightworkers, most are rather oblivious of these divine gifts of nature. The only blessing about being oblivious is discovering that you no longer are!
Expect the unexpected
As this frequency aligns with the essence of Pluto moving fully into the Aquarian energy, it brings with it a new promise of great revelations such as clarity on many things you couldn’t find surety about. Things that troubled you but couldn’t quite put your finger on yet felt the need to understand.
It reveals the ‘bliss of the unknown’. Aquarius is all about newness – discoveries, technologies and modernising things with an upshift in frequency. It also brings to the fore things you shy away from. That which no longer serves you will reveal itself in many different ways!
Mostly this will present itself in non-offensive ways at first, but unexpected curve balls reveal the indifferent side to the Aquarian energy. That cold shoulder who irritatingly snubs. The absent-mindedness that ‘wanders off in mind’ whilst engaging in conversation, to return innocently without recollection. This shared ‘fragment’ will be evident on all levels.
These are your ‘new’ grounding years of this frequency. You are entering the greatest transition ever, which presents a new profound way of looking at all things differently, with inner sight.
As 2025’s ‘9’ numerology brings things to a close, a new timeline awaits. 2026, albeit the start of a new cycle, also brings a powerful transformative three-year process to a close, SO EXPECT BIG CHANGES from now on, BIG revelations.
If there ever was a time to embrace change it is NOW. Your experiences of the past 24 or so years created this doorway. For most, it has been a time of ‘deep surges’, feeling as if you are dragging your feet and facing constant challenges. Many are still opting out of this density.
2006/7 played a significant part in what is happening now, as many face similar transitions.
Be brave, break down the high walls that surround you, then dismantle the fences beyond that. Let go of self-inflicted obstacles set deliberately to keep everyone away.
Pull the drawbridge down and empty your moat!
It is time to unveil the New You which was initiated in 2012. It’s all about alchemy, discovering the renewed you, as in juxtapose and paradox there is nothing new.
The Aquarian Age Gateway reveals ‘never before discoveries’ including much you never knew about your amazing magical self. Up to now many still felt the heavy stubbornness of the ‘old’ preventing passage into the new, especially over the past 18 months.
Close the door on rigidity and dogma. Although becoming anew means working on yourself, the frequency has shifted from ‘I must’ to ‘I want’. Laugh at your setbacks. Let go of the insecurities you’ve locked yourself within. Open your wings and become the Human Angel that you are!
This is a rebirth into your desired timeline!
If you always do what you always did you will always get what you always got.
Put this into practice. Creating the life you dream of may not be an easy ride without complications. But see those complications as opportunities instead of stumbling blocks. Let go of the instability within the emotional body especially. This will support the mental body to expand beyond lower understanding. Integrate this into your new frequency, the discovery of (as you must have heard) your awakening chromosome pairs and ‘junk’ DNA! It’s all there!
Now is the time for that which you always considered ‘junk and dormant’ to unveil new perceptions!
Unbelievable? No beloveds. You are gifted with enhanced building blocks to transcend your consciousness from survival to living life to the fullest.
Love is in the air!
Amethyst, violet and emerald frequencies are blasted throughout this planet, not only by the master overseers but by every one of YOU who experienced the many activations and initiations! This happens at a beautifully blissful oblivious level (smirk). You, the planetary Lightworkers are doing this and there are many, many, millions of you!
Your collective is shifting and expanding ALL the time. The average frequency of the ‘general brain wave’ is shifting to accommodate the new energy, so they too may ‘consciously’ discover newness in the mundane and dare to explore what lies beyond their yellow brick road. Beloveds, so that they too may, in their expansive mind and dream astral state, discover their golden doorway and thus become conscious of consciousness!
These transformation codes emanate from you naturally, the Earth Keepers, with every move you make (hands and feet), every breath you take, every thought you entertain and every word you speak. This is what you’ve been trained for. To integrate newness and to understand the recalibration transition from the old into the new and spread it!
This will support the planet’s collective in working with this energy. Become aware of the senses of Gaia, the elements of the Earth. The essence of the winds of change, water which carries and reacts to thought, frequency and memory, fire which changes, disperses and brings new life and air which allows all to come into being. All in support of rebirthing consciousness.
Embrace the blessings of this planet like your own. Take on your coat of many colours, your cloak of many fragments. The alchemist never ignores these senses along with their own; smell, taste, sight, touch, hear and knowing, not forgetting, your higher senses.
Work with the elementals, the sylphs (air), undines (water), gnomes (earth), salamanders and fire dragons (fire) to mention some. These beautiful creatures exist in interdimensional space which is becoming more evident as the veils become thinner between worlds. Set the intent for a ‘tune-up’ of your third eye as this energy is becoming prominent and ‘alive’ along your timeline of new discoveries!
From the millennium to 2012 was 12 years and from 2012 to the timeline of 2024, another 12 years. This energy you are entering into will be very similar to the post-2012 era.
We gave you many pointers at the time which some chose to ignore. To the dismay of many, from a collective point of view, the period that followed felt like an uncomfortable silence. We left the group we worked with back then in their sarcophagus for three months during their final 2012 initiation. We closed the lid and doorways to their initiation chambers, not for the faint of heart…
Beloveds, to survive in complete ‘darkness’ you must hold yourself in an enlightened state. Where your light shines, darkness cannot be! Your ascension chakras facilitate this by introducing a heightened state of consciousness whilst functioning consciously on any level. Hence, juggling third, fourth and fifth-dimensional awareness and more.
We invited that group to ‘resurface’ three months later in 2013 with the hope of eliminating fear from their being – and many did! Beloveds, many of you, in your own way, faced similar fear levels since 2012. Many groups such as the one this channel worked with at the time laid cornerstone foundations for the past 12 years since 2012. We referred to them as the Golden Phoenix.
If this new timeline demands of you to become the Phoenix once more, to be reborn from your ashes again and again, do it fast, do it quickly, get over it and move on! Let go of all that robbed and restricted you from freely expressing yourself fully and completely. We will share various aspects of the new energy over time.
For those that follow our teachings about anchoring your sacred Golden Pyramid Sanctum, infuse as much emotion, frequency, senses, elements and whatever else you resonate with, making your visualisations as real as possible. That is how you enter into and traverse through your higher frequency Golden Door. ** Note – I will be starting online teachings about this soon – Chanel
A most important alchemical tool Beloveds, visualise your pineal, pituitary, major brain nerve plexus (carotid and choroid), hypothalamus and thalamus in separate crystalline mother-of-pearl star tetrahedrons and spin their frequencies. This aids third eye activation on yet another level.
Set the intent to tap into (gamma) cosmic energy (crystalline frequency) to aid the rewiring of your DNA! Connect to the Christ Consciousness crystalline grid to expand this. Tap into and awaken your dormant spiritual DNA, which will rewire your frequency magnificently!
Visualise etheric electromagnetic sparks emanating from the spinning third eye gateway glands filtering into all your bodies, rewiring your DNA. Address your DNA with INTENT and LOVE!
“I AM a Multifaceted Multi-dimensional Magical Magnificent Being of Light”
Let your cauldron of all possibilities brew something incredible for you! YOU came to push every button and rip open every envelope! Do so with LOVE.
Earth keepers
You are guardians of the New Earth Flames and New Earth DNA. With new frequencies comes a clearer understanding of timelines, some you are congruent with and some not. You will learn how to cope with multiple and then there are those timelines that entertain…
Until we meet again, I am Kuthumi, I am the Lord and Master Cohan of the Golden Rays of Love and Wisdom.
Invite Christ Consciousness within as without to guide your every way. Instead of panic call upon us. Call upon the universal flow of Light to, through the Cosmic Seas, bless unto you every opportunity that you so deserve. Let go of the restrictions of the mind that create insecurity and know that not now or not ever can you be alone. Adonai.
About Chanel: Chanel lives in Howick South Africa. Author of “From Party Patsy to Praying Patricia” – www.visionoftheheart.co.za. Transvoice channel for the Ascended Masters since 2006 after surviving a mind-blowing extraordinary ordination detailed in her book.
Parents are generally excited to see teens brimming with energy and enthusiasm, yet are frustrated and hurt when they display surliness, sarcasm and monosyllabic communication. Teenagers can be very free with their criticism, complain loudly and experience mood swings before your eyes.
Relax, you have a normal teen son or daughter in the house!
Conscious Parenting Indaba 25.07.2025 Difficult Teens? Perfect! Megan de Beyer – 17:00 to 18:00 Book your Ticket
About Megan: Megan de Beyer, MA (Psychology), MSc (Holistic Ecology) is an international Psychologist and group facilitator. She has facilitated many successful and well-subscribed Mothers and Sons courses at most Independent boys’ school in South Africa. She has been invited to run parent courses in California, Australia and UK on numerous occasions; as well as presenting at conferences on parenting. She is the author of “How to Raise a Man – a modern mother’s guide to parenting her teenage son” published by Penguin. An eBook is available.
See her advice on The Village Facebook group where she is the co-founder. She is a mother of 2 young adults, runs wellness & mindfulness retreats in Cape Town, and presently works throughout Africa in mental health for the Singita Safari Company. Overall, Megan’s conscious living philosophy is the foundation of her healing work. She exemplifies three fundamental pillars of healing – radical tenderness, passionate kindness, and extreme peace.
“Giving birth in ecstasy. This is our birthright and our body’s intent. Mother Nature, in her wisdom, prescribes birthing hormones that take us outside our usual state, so that we can be transformed on every level as we enter motherhood.”
Dr Sarah Buckley.
How we are born, and indeed, how we give birth, has immense bearing on our lives
I find it very interesting how, in general, there is widespread acceptance of harmful and interventionist practices in the assumptions and expectations about what birth looks like, and what is required to give birth.
The fact that birth is viewed as a medical emergency when, as we all can acknowledge, women’s bodies are designed to carry and birth babies, amazes me. Women have indeed been the portal through which all human life, since the beginning, has come, and for far far longer than the existence of the medical industry.
Life follows Birth
Our births, just like any other major life event, and even more so, affects us on every level of our beings. Birth becomes the foundational template from which we consciously, and more commonly, subconsciously order our lives.
A lot of the wounds we have around abandonment, separation, violence, and feeling unsafe in the world, stem from this earliest imprint.
During the birth process and the newborn phase, human infants are particularly vulnerable and need the absolute, guaranteed, and continued presence of their mothers.
Mothers and babies exist in a single energy body which slowly separates out as the child grows up. To a baby’s consciousness, it exists as one with its mother.
In the absence of interference, the majority of women are capable of physiological birth
When we trust the process of birth, we can start to divest from our deeply entrenched and pervasive cultural conditioning about needing external experts, constant surveillance, management, interference, interventions and safety measures.
These beliefs are constantly reinforced by the medical industry, the media, and well meaning people with warnings, horror stories and their own fears.
The ugly truth
The tragic truth is that, by our investment in the system of industrial birth, we have given over our power as mothers, parents and communities to an entity that does not center the true wellness of mothers and babies, and the mother-child dyad.
Harmful practices and protocols persist, mothers are coerced into a chain reaction of interventions, all of which derail physiological birth, births are sabotaged and more..
When we understand the process of birth, we can let it unfold without fear and doubt
As thinking, maturing, conscious human beings, we have to realise that we are responsible for our experience, and that we DO have a choice. We have unprecedented access to information, we are allowed to ask questions, we are allowed to consider how we would like to do things.
There is a wave of human beings who are remembering that birth is not a medical event.We know that we can avail ourselves of the vast knowledge, tools and other resources that modern medicine offers, without becoming dependent and beholden to this system.
And, we are returning to the fact that birth is not only a physical event, but a sacred spiritual event.
“Learn to respect this sacred moment of birth, as fragile, as elusive, as fleeting as dawn. The child is there, hesitant, tentative, … Let him be. Just wait. This child is awakening for the very first time. This is his first dawn. Allow him its grandeur, its majesty. Don’t even stir until he leaves behind the night and its kingdom of dreams.”
Frederick Leboyer – French obstetrician.
I look so forward to connecting to you all at the KwazuluSpirit Conscious Parenting Indaba in July Love always, Lynne
About Lynne: Certified Mama Bamba Antenatal Facilitator, Lynne is a registered Intimacy coach with Intimacy Coach International and her personal experiences of three home births, including a freebirth at 45, have deepened her understanding of birth as a rite of passage. She is also trained in Hatha and Ashtanga Vinyasa Yoga, specialising in prenatal Yoga and has facilitated conscious dance, Tantra, and breathwork. Her work explores intimacy, embodiment and transformation. Passionate about women’s sovereignty, she supports mothers in reclaiming their power, intuition and birth choices. Motherhood remains her greatest teacher and she is dedicated to guiding others through this sacred journey.
In this talk we look at how birth prepares us for motherhood. Undisturbed, physiological birth centres the mother-child dyad and sets the stage for a well, connected and capable motherhood. We will discuss why it is so vital that we consider our choices in birth, look at the mechanisms at play around birth and visualise the profound power that this initiation offers us
Undisturbed, physiological birth centres mothers and enables them to be:
Deeply bonded with their babies;
More effortlessly responsive to their babies;
Protective of their babies;
Their own mothering authority – responsible and courageous in their choices;
Less prone to postnatal depression, birth complications, struggling to breastfeed;
Generally calmer and more confident as mothers;
Able to meet their child’s needs.
About Lynne: Certified Mama Bamba Antenatal Facilitator, Lynne is a registered Intimacy coach with Intimacy Coach International and her personal experiences of three home births, including a freebirth at 45, have deepened her understanding of birth as a rite of passage. She is also trained in Hatha and Ashtanga Vinyasa Yoga, specialising in prenatal Yoga and has facilitated conscious dance, Tantra, and breathwork. Her work explores intimacy, embodiment and transformation. Passionate about women’s sovereignty, she supports mothers in reclaiming their power, intuition and birth choices. Motherhood remains her greatest teacher and she is dedicated to guiding others through this sacred journey.
